Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Some Rules Are Meant To Be Broken

Some Rules Are Meant To Be Broken 

Many years ago I signed up for a daily email from a company called TUT (totally unique thoughts). The emails are written as if they are coming from the Universe, which is really a guy named Mike Dooley. I love these quick, to the point messages that often times, stay with me for days, if not weeks. Today, I thought I would share one of the messages I received and the perspective it gave me.

“Never create Rules, Sarah. Not ever. Not for others. And especially not for yourself. Unless, of course, this is your rules.”

From the time we begin to walk, we are taught about rules. Some rules are obviously for our safety, while other rules teach us at a young age that there are limitations in life or what we “can or can’t do.” Although I have prescribed to plenty of my own self-limited thoughts (and probably still do), I also believe that some rules are meant to be broken.

When I read this message from the Universe, I had a flash of some “rules” I had learned over the course of my life…like eat all your vegetables, or don’t drive over the speed limit, or never put the Christmas tree top on until the rest of the tree is decorated…all rules I think I have broken at some point in time!

Some rules (especially the ones that should be broken), restrict us and hold us back…they keep us thinking small or believing that we are not capable of more…worse off, they stop us from living a fulfilling life. We are taught to think about our actions, to be smart and plan ahead. These are all rules, that could be broke, and for good cause.

When we create rules, we create expectations and then our dreams become a rigid set of “to-dos” on a boring sheet of paper. When we create expectations we stifle our creativity. And when we are restricted or tied to a rule we shut off the flow of possibilities. If we can only see one outcome or one way something can happen, we have prescribed to a self-limiting rule.

If you want to make something happen in your life, stop creating rules…stop believing in “how you think it should be done.” Stop having expectations of those around you or the circumstances in your life. Stop thinking and start dreaming. Some rules are meant to be broken…especially when it comes to being in control of your own happiness!

Much Love,
Sarah Michelle

Success Coach . Trainer . Author
Author of Tales of Fried Bologna: A Journey to Forgiveness
www.SarahMichelleBliss.com

Thursday, June 18, 2015

Your Destiny is Not Predicted by Your Past

Your Destiny is Not Predicted by Your Past 


The other day I was presenting a class on the topic of goal setting and removing limited belief systems.  In the materials there was a statement which read something along these lines…”your commitment, not your condition, shapes your future.” Let’s stop there and let that sink in a bit. Your commitment…not your condition (be it a lack of money, maybe a health condition, or perhaps a lack of knowledge)…shapes your future. Your future being the goals and ambitions you dream about when you lay awake at night.

In other words, where you come from or where you are currently at, does not predict where you can go in life if you choose to. I grew up in a trailer with an alcoholic mother and an abusive father. My future was pretty bleak. But as a little girl, I dreamed of a bigger world, outside of the trailer park. I could have easily resolved to the reality of my condition as a child, but I chose not to. And by having a little spark deep inside that longed for something better, something bigger, I was able to leave that life behind for a brighter future.

Sure we all have some belief about ourselves that holds us back, myself included. Life is not always roses and sunshine! However, if we are committed to what I like to call BHAGS (big, hairy audacious goals)…these are goals that make your stomach do a flip when you think about them…and when I say committed, I am mean committed like your life depending on it…then anything is possible. That is worth repeating: anything is possible.

Your destiny is not predicted by your past…unless you choose to let it be. It’s time to start living the life you dream of…what are you committed to?

Peace and Love, 

Sarah Michelle
Success Coach . Trainer . Author
Author of Tales of Fried Bologna: A Journey to Forgiveness
www.sarahmichellebliss.com